Think he was amazing just because he texted back and remembered your coffee order? Let’s break the illusion. This is your wake-up call to stop settling for the bare minimum.
I know, I know—right now, it feels like you lost the love of your life.
Be honest, Queen. Did you lose the love of your life—or just a guy who sent a ‘good morning’ text and remembered your coffee order?
Right now, it feels like you lost something special. But before you start romanticizing the bare minimum, let’s take a reality check: Was he actually great… or just not a walking red flag?
We need to talk about how the bar for men is currently so low it’s practically underground.
If a guy sends a good morning text, suddenly he’s husband material? Queen, no.
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1. He Responded to Texts? Congrats, He Has Thumbs.
Did you ever find yourself so grateful that he actually texted back? Like, “Wow, he’s different.” No, babe, he’s not. That’s basic human communication. Responding to messages isn’t a sign of love—it’s a sign of literacy.
2. He Was Nice to You? That’s the Standard, Not a Selling Point.
“But he was always so nice to me!” Okay… and? Do we hand out trophies for men who aren’t blatantly rude? Being nice is literally the lowest requirement for human decency. Next.
3. He Didn’t Cheat? Okay, But He Also Didn’t Win a Nobel Prize.
Not being a cheater isn’t something that earns extra credit—it’s the bare minimum. If you ever found yourself celebrating the fact that he remained faithful, ask yourself: Why was that even a question?
4. He Remembered Small Things? Or Did He Just Have a Functional Memory?
“But he remembered my coffee order!” Girl, it’s literally three words. If a barista can do it for a hundred customers a day, so can he.
5. He Didn’t Judge You for Being Yourself? That’s Called… a Normal Relationship.
You should never feel lucky that someone “accepted” you. The right person will celebrate every weird little thing about you—your obsession with true crime documentaries, your unhealthy relationship with nachos, all of it.
6. He Made You Laugh? Yeah, So Do Memes.
If the highlight of your relationship was that he had decent jokes, I promise, you’re not missing much. There are entireInstagram pages dedicated to funny people, and none of them ghost you.
7. He Was There for You… Occasionally?
Did you have to beg for support? Did he only show up when it was convenient? If your friends carried more emotional weight in your life than he did, you weren’t in a relationship—you were in an unpaid internship.
8. He Didn’t Embarrass You in Public? That’s Just Basic Social Skills.
If “he never embarrassed me” is on your list of reasons you miss him, I need you to reevaluate everything immediately.
9. He Said He Loved You? Cool, But Did He Show It?
Words are easy. Actions take effort. If his love was mostly talk with no follow-through, he wasn’t a romantic—he was a customer service representative.
10. He Made You Feel Special? Or Just Like You Were an Option?
Some men have a talent for making you feel chosen when, in reality, they just kept you around while doing the bare minimum to keep you hooked. Don’t mistake occasional attention for genuine effort.
Final Thoughts: Maybe He Wasn’t That Special. But You Are.
If you’re sitting here, reminiscing about all the “great” things he did, ask yourself: Would I be impressed if my best friend described her boyfriend this way? Or would you say, “Uh… girl, that’s literally the least he could do.”
You deserve more than someone who meets the bare minimum and makes you feel like it’s an achievement. Love shouldn’t feel like waiting for crumbs from a half-interested man.
You are not too much.
You are not asking for too much.
And the right person will never make you feel like love is something you have to earn.
Every time the doubt creeps in—every time you think ‘maybe he wasn’t that bad’—you need a hard reset.
“The bare minimum is officially canceled. And so is wasting your energy on men who bring nothing to the table but an appetite.”
Your Next Steps:
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🩵Step 2: Rewire your mindset daily → Use The Breakup Queen Affirmation Cards to stop settling.
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You deserve more than “he texted me back.” Now go act like it.
Stay powerful, Queen. The bar is officially higher.