5 Steps to Heal from Heartbreak

Breakups can bring a whirlwind of emotions—sadness, anger, relief, confusion. It’s essential to give yourself permission to feel all of it without judgment. Embrace your emotions and understand that healing starts with acknowledging them.

I wish someone had told me this during my darkest breakup days: suppressing emotions only drags out the pain. The nights I tried to distract myself or pretend I was “unbothered”? They only made the sadness linger longer. It wasn’t until I let myself ugly-cry in the shower and journal my most chaotic thoughts that the healing actually started.

One minute it’s tears and ice cream; the next, it’s rage-text drafts you thankfully didn’t send. Sound familiar? Sadness, anger, relief, confusion—they all hit hard. And guess what? That’s okay.

The first step in healing? Feel it all. Yep, every messy, complicated emotion. Don’t try to “be strong” by pushing it down. That whole “I’m fine” act? It only delays the healing. The truth is, feeling everything is the bravest thing you can do right now. Your emotions aren’t weaknesses—they’re signs you cared, you loved, you lived.

✨ Pro Tip: Try setting a timer for a 20-minute “feel session.” Cry. Scream into a pillow. Write the angriest letter (you’ll never send). When the timer stops, so does the spiral—for now. You’ve honored your feelings. You’ve taken a step. And tomorrow? You’ll feel a little lighter.

⚡ Important Reminder: This deep dive into your emotions can be overwhelming. It’s crucial to do this only when you feel safe, with time set aside just for you. If things start to feel too heavy, pause. Reach out to a friend, family member, or someone you trust. Healing doesn’t have to be a solo mission—which brings us to the next point… 👑

Alright, Queen—real talk. No one gets through heartbreak alone. You might think you’re channeling your inner badass by shutting the world out, but isolation? Not the move. Healing is messy, and sometimes you need a hype squad to remind you just how powerful you are when you forget.

After my most brutal breakup, I thought I could “handle it” alone. Newsflash: I couldn’t. The turning point? Letting my best friend sit with me in silence when I couldn’t form words. Letting my sister drag me out for coffee when all I wanted was my bed. Letting people in. Because the truth is, healing thrives in connection. And sometimes, your glow-up begins with simply letting someone remind you that you still shine.

Surround yourself with the people who lift you up. You know, the ones who won’t judge you for rehashing the same story for the fifth time or for eating cereal straight from the box at 3 a.m. Friends, family, or even that online support group full of strangers who totally get you—these are your people right now.

✨ Pro Tip: Find that one person—the friend who listens without dishing out cliché advice, who doesn’t try to “fix” you, but just hears you. Share your journey with them. Let them hold space for your mess. And if you don’t have that person? Join a support group. There’s power in healing together, even with strangers who just get it.

⚡ Breakup Queen Wisdom: You don’t have to be the “strong one” all the time. Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s bravery. So text that friend. Call your mom. DM that community. Let someone show up for you. Because you’re worth it. 👑

Listen up, Queen—this is where the magic happens. Breakups don’t just break hearts; they sometimes make us forget who we are outside the “we.” But here’s the thing: this chapter of your life? It’s all about **YOU**.

This is your time to explore, redefine, and glow. Try that hobby you always thought about but never did. Learn a new skill. Dance in your living room at midnight. Read those books gathering dust. Revisit old passions that made you feel alive before someone else’s presence took center stage.

For me, it was journaling that brought me back. Pen to paper, no judgment. I wrote about my dreams, my fears, and the woman I wanted to become. I realized I didn’t need someone else to complete me—I was whole all along.

✨ And here’s where my favorite healing tool comes in: If journaling feels like the right step for you too, I created the *Rebel Journal* for exactly this moment. It’s packed with 155 science based prompts to help you heal and reconnect with yourself.

This season is your rebirth. Reconnecting with yourself means discovering the version of you that’s wiser, braver, and more authentic than ever before. So take your time. Love the process. And remember: the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with YOU. 👑

Let’s be real—distance is healing. It’s tough to move on when your ex keeps popping up in your life, whether it’s on your phone or in your thoughts. That random story update? The “just checking in” text? Nope. You don’t need that.

Unfollow. Mute. Block if you must. These aren’t petty moves—they’re power moves. It’s hard, I get it. You’ll wonder if it’s too drastic. But trust me, it’s the clarity you need. Every time you choose not to check their feed, you’re choosing **you**. That’s how you take your power back.

And hey, boundaries don’t stop at your ex. They apply to everything and everyone draining your energy. If certain friends keep bringing up your breakup without you wanting to talk about it —set that boundary. If family members ask too many questions—set that boundary. This is your healing space, and you get to control who enters it.

Queen’s Reminder: A boundary doesn’t mean the other person has to change their behavior. It’s not about them—it’s about you. A boundary means you take action. You end the conversation. You leave the room. Whatever it takes for you to feel safe and empowered. 

✨ Quick Tip: Setting boundaries isn’t about being cold. It’s about being kind—to yourself. You’re not closing doors; you’re opening new ones for peace, growth, and glow-up vibes. ✨

Yes, I know. With this heavy heart, I’m telling you to plan joy. Sounds almost impossible, right? But hear me out. I’m not talking about big, life-changing happiness. No need to book a flight to Bali or run a marathon (unless that’s your vibe). I’m talking about the tiny sparks. The ones that sneak in when you least expect them.

When everything feels heavy, small joys are the light you need. These tiny moments matter. They’re the little reminders that life goes on—and it can still be beautiful.

Start simple. A slow morning with your favorite coffee. A walk where the sun hits just right. Laughing at a dumb meme your best friend sent. Joy doesn’t have to be big or loud. It’s often quiet and soft, slipping into your day when you least expect it.

For me, it was the small wins that made the difference. Finishing a book. Cooking a meal just for myself. Buying fresh flowers—no reason, just because. These little things whispered, *Hey, life is still good.*

✨ Pro Tip: Make a joy list. Write down 10 tiny things that make you smile, just a little. Whenever the day feels too much, pick one and do it. Healing doesn’t happen in huge leaps—it happens in these everyday moments of choosing joy.

💖 You’re not just surviving. You’re living. One small, joyful moment at a time. 💖

Heartbreak may knock you down, but it doesn’t get to keep you there. Every tear, every tough day, every small win—it’s all part of your comeback story. Healing isn’t linear, and it doesn’t have to be perfect. What matters is that you’re showing up for you.

You’re not just picking up the pieces; you’re building something new—stronger, wiser, and more unapologetically you than ever before. So take it one breath, one boundary, and one small joy at a time.

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